Hey! Something that has been happening to me a lot by being in middle school is having fake friends. To fully understand what fake friends are, you have to know their definitions.
Fake means not genuine; friend means a person whom one knows and with whom one has a bond of mutual affection. Fake friends are people who pretend to be a real friend but really just want to know you to spread lies about you. They pretend to be interested in stuff you like, they act like they love you and really like you as a friend.
Being friends with a fake friend is not only hard, but also annoying. I am friends with two fake friends. I have tried so hard to break free from their grasp, but they only pull you back in. My best friend is actually friends with them, she knows that they don’t like me, and I don’t like them. However, we are a “group”.
One of the fake friends is a really nice girl, but she doesn’t like me, but acts like she does. They both treat me badly, they tell me how bad I am and that I’m like this or that. They put you down and make yourself feel like a bad person. You aren’t a bad person, but they are. They go around school acting like they know the newest trend and if you don’t the newest thing, they judge for it. They say oh you only hang out with her to get popular, you aren’t really friends with her. Yeah, I am really good friends with her, I could care less about being popular.
One thing that really bothers me is when they fake friends tell my best friend that they are mad at me. The other day one of the fake friends was mad at me because of something stupid. She gets mad at me and then starts whispering to my best friend about me. We went to our homeroom and started packing up our books for the next class. She takes her whiteboard and writes “If there is something wrong, just say it.” In my head I was thinking I am not going to respond to a whiteboard. Plus, she didn’t talk to me the whole day, so writing on a whiteboard isn’t going to make me talk to you. I know you’re mad at me, but you didn’t tell me that, my best friend did. She is put in the middle all the time, I feel so bad for her. Then my best friend tells me everything because how could she keep it a secret. I’ve known her for the longest time so it’s not like she could keep that from me.
Anyway, knowing how to avoid fake friends is hard because they act so nice and kind to you, but they are faking. Once you have been “friends” with them for a while, you realize that they don’t want to know you, they only want to spread rumors about you. The only reason why they want to stick with you is to make your life miserable.
You will know who your fake friends because you will spread rumors about you and whisper about you behind your back. So, when you know who your fake friends are break away from them. It’s not worth it even if they are nice people, but treat you badly, you don’t need them. Don’t be friends with them any longer than you need to be.
avoid fake friends and live your life to the fullest, because you deserve better!
I hope your fall is full of real friends and not fake ones.
Please leave me a comment and tell us how you deal with fake friends.
—Jenny, 7th grade student
Simple Teen Life Ambassador
